Using the system described in Loving Someone with Bipolar Disorder, here is the list I came up with for my wife, for anxiety state:
1st DRAFT – done by myself… hoping to have my partner join me in this journey in the next 2-3 weeks months (Optimistic – I know!)
ANXIETY
What partner says:
Severe worry about kids not having friends
I am nervous I don’t know what I’m doing
I’m sorry I’m such a nervous wreck
Relations with others:
Suspicious of friends being judgemental
Irritable and impatient with kids
Partner thoughts:
People are ignoring me
What is the purpose of life
I need to work on my ego
Difficulty with making decisions
Medications:
No change, or possibly more ritalin tried
Work obligations:
Feels unconfident about abilities
Worried about being disorganised
Complete neglect / guilt of home responsibilities
What partner does:
Overanalyzes everything
Ruminates about social interactions
Worries for kids futures, because of our failures
Sexual behavious:
Loss of libido
Physical signs:
Feeling agitated and teary
Face looks preoccupied or lost
Eating & drugs:
Eats more chocolate and junk food
Changes in daily activities:
Hours spent online looking into source of pain
Breaks in usual exercise, learning, prayer routine
More tired
Trouble focussing on work around the house
Doesn’t want to speak to or see friends
Spending behaviour:
Worried about spending every dollar
Guilty for not cooking more, to save money
Sleep schedule:
Sometime agitated sleep
Early morning waking
Exercise level:
Reduced exercise due to tiredness
Dialogue from the Depths 
I greatly appreciate this post. Not only am I the partner of someone who suffers from BP2, I am also diagnosed with chronic anxiety. This explains my symptoms to a “T”, and it is encouraging to know that I am not alone. While sometimes these symptoms can be overwhelming and beyond some of my personal tools, I have found that meditation/mindfulness techniques along with an expressive outlet (a weekly social outing or an artistic project) and consistent reassurance from my spouse during the harder bouts have all been quite helpful. I wish your wife peace and self-acceptance. I know that it can be incredibly hard, but she should know that her situation is not isolated.
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